Don't know this, and offend people as soon as you open your mouth?

Psychologists have found that not using negative words in communication will greatly improve the fluency of communication and the success rate of negotiations, and will also make the other party more acceptable. For example, "I don't agree with you going to Beijing", in other words, "Do you think about going to Beijing again, and consider other factors before deciding", relatively speaking, the second statement is obviously more acceptable than the first.

Chinese is one of the most complex languages in the world, and one of the manifestations of this complexity is the diversity of expressions. For example, we mean that a lady is fat. One way to say: "You're really fat, and you haven't lost weight yet"; Another way to put it: "You might look better if you were a little thinner". There are many ways to express yourself in language, but as an obedient person, of course, you would like to hear a more tactful and subtle way of expressing it. Before we speak, think a little more, and the expression may have a different result.

Body language encompasses the various movements that parts of the body make to express one's opinion. Words, intonation, and body movements constitute an expression system for human communication, and only the perfect coordination of all parts can produce good results.

Studies have shown that the effects of words, intonation, and body movements are different when communicating, with words accounting for 7%, intonation accounting for 38%, and body movements (language) accounting for 55%.

For example, if we just look at the text "This is two million", it may be difficult for you to hear what it means, but if you have the tone and expression, it will be easy to understand what it is trying to say. For example, when we say, "This is two million", and add a surprised expression and tone, it will make people feel very sudden; If you add a very angry expression and tone, it will give you the feeling of causing a lot of trouble or causing a lot of damage, but if it is a different tone of voice, it can express many other meanings.

Others need understanding, not judgment, and if you always judge others in the name of doing good for others and ask others to change, you will be alone.

Fitzgerald said in "The Great Gatsby" that when I was young and inexperienced, my father taught me a sentence that I still remember. "Whenever you want to criticize anybody," he told me, "remember that not all the people in this world have your superior qualities. "Yes, it's not easy for us to know ourselves, let alone others?

The power of language is so powerful, and it is also a warning to us to slow down three seconds before speaking to ensure that the words we say do not hurt others, which not only reflects our quality, but also the basic etiquette and basic rules of getting along with others.