Children's politeness and etiquette need to be cultivated from an early age

author：Editor date：2024-03-15 15:39:54 popularity： column：article

A well-bred child must have good civilized manners, and such a child is more popular, which is what psychology calls "a high degree of acceptance by everyone". Civilized etiquette should be cultivated from an early age and good habits should be formed.

Some parents think that it doesn't matter if they understand civilized etiquette or not, as long as they study well and have real skills; Some parents believe that children are innocent and will know civilized etiquette when they grow up. Actually, this is all a misunderstanding.

On the one hand, children's civilized etiquette needs to be cultivated from an early age, otherwise bad habits will be formed, and once bad habits are formed, it will be difficult to change them; On the other hand, the more a child who understands etiquette, the more he can gain a broad world of free development, because he will be respected and welcomed by others.

Next, the editor will lead parents to start from the following aspects to understand and cultivate children's good habits of politeness. Hope these methods can be helpful to you!

Tip 1: Set an example for your child

First of all, parents are role models for children to learn, and children are easy to learn from, so in front of children, parents should be good role models. For example, when you meet elders or friends, you have to say hello, often say "thank you, sorry" to people, etc., children have a good learning model, are you afraid that he will learn badly?

Suggestion 2: Clean up the locale

Children's uncivilized language generally comes from the surrounding environment, and if you want your child to become a civilized and polite person, you must first purify the language environment around your child.

When parents find that their children are swearing, they should find out the "root cause" of the child's swearing, and try to keep the child away from or less exposed to that bad environment. For example, parents can consciously limit their children's association with classmates who often swear. You can also get in touch with the teacher and use the teacher's power to promote other children to develop civilized and polite habits; You can also get in touch with the parents of your child's classmates to help your child develop the habit of being civilized and polite.

Tip 3: Pay attention to personal etiquette

Parents should consciously emphasize the importance of paying attention to personal etiquette to their children, and parents can pay attention to the following aspects to cultivate their children to pay attention to personal etiquette.

1. Grooming

Educate children to keep their appearance neat and tidy, and wash their faces, necks, and hands cleanly: cut their nails and wash their hair frequently; Brush your teeth in the morning and evening, rinse your mouth after meals, and pay attention to oral hygiene; Take a bath often to ensure that there is no odor in the body; Dress cleanly, neatly, and appropriately.

2. Behavior

It mainly puts forward requirements from standing, sitting, walking, demeanor and movement. The graceful standing posture gives people a sense of upright and spirit; Stand upright, chest and abdomen. To avoid listlessness, shrugging shoulders, slumping over, and never half lying down and half sitting. Walk with your head held high, your shoulders swinging naturally, and your pace at a moderate pace to prevent swaying, swaying, or twisting and breaking steps.

3. Facial expressions

Teach children to show respect, understanding, and kindness towards people. When interacting with people, you should smile naturally, and never have bad habits such as picking your ears, picking your nose, tickling, and picking your feet.

4. Rhetorical wording

Ask your child to use polite language such as "hello, thank you, please, excuse me, it's okay," etc. Children are required to be sincere, cordial, use civilized language, concise and decent, neither taciturn nor repetitive.

When parents emphasize the common sense of civility and politeness to their children, they should not use the tone of lectures and commands, but should follow the guidance and teach earnestly. At the same time, parents should also let their children understand that if people collide with each other, they should not speak ill of each other, but should have an understanding and tolerant attitude.

Tip 4: Be courteous

Every family will have guests coming. Parents can try to teach their children to entertain guests as hosts and pay attention to courtesy.

In this regard, the practice of Mr. Feng Zikai, a famous painter and writer in modern China, is very worth mentioning.

Mr. Feng Zikai has a son named Feng Chenbao. Feng Chenbao was very afraid of people when he was a child, and he was not very polite in front of guests. Once, Mr. Feng Zikai went to Shanghai to catch up with an editor for the Kaiming Bookstore, and brought the thirteen or fourteen-year-old Xiao Chen Bao with him, wanting Xiao Chen Bao to help him copy and write. One day, a little Chen Bao came to a guest he didn't know, and the guest talked with Mr. Feng Zikai for a long time, but Xiao Chen Bao never greeted the guest. After the guest finished talking with Mr. Feng Zikai, he came over to greet and say goodbye to Xiao Chen Bao. At this moment, Xiao Chen Baoke was stunned, he didn't know what to do for a while.

After Mr. Feng Zikai sent the guests away, he taught Xiao Chen Bao earnestly: "The guests greet you and say goodbye, how can you ignore others?" Later, Mr. Feng Zikai has always attached great importance to Xiao Chen Bao's polite education. He told Xiao Chen Bao that when the guests came, they should serve tea and rice to the guests, and they must hold it with both hands to show respect. He also humorously made an analogy: "If you serve tea and food with one hand, it is like the emperor rewarding his courtiers, more like giving alms to beggars, and it is like parents giving their children water and food." This is very disrespectful. These words were deeply imprinted in Xiao Chen Bao's heart, and later, Xiao Chen Bao really became a polite child.

Tip 5: Respect your child

Civility and politeness seem to be an outward manifestation of behavior, but it actually reflects a person's inner cultivation. Children with self-esteem respect themselves and maintain their personal dignity. Children who know how to respect others tend to be considerate of other people's feelings when they speak. Therefore, parents should respect their children in their lives.

The famous British educator Spencer once said, "Barbarism produces barbarism, and benevolence produces benevolence, this is the truth." If you don't have compassion for children, they become uncompassionate; And treating them with the friendship they deserve is a means of cultivating their friendship. In other words, treat children with due respect, and children will know how to respect.

At the same time, parents should respect each other in the family, and respect between parents will have a good influence on their children subtly.

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