Communication password | In the era of appearance, it is also spelled "word value"!
The so-called "appearance" is not just a glamorous appearance, but a spiritual appearance; The so-called "speech value" is not just a language, but a kind of cultivation; In this era of looking at faces, appearance is important, but "word value" is also very important!
"Speech value" refers to the degree of civilization in a person's speech, as well as the level of language expression ability.
To a certain extent, what a person says and how he expresses it can affect the evaluation of his personal impression by the outside world more than his appearance.
In the Western Jin Dynasty, Pan An, who was outrageous, to this day, we don't know what he looks like.
At the same time as him, Zuo Si, who would lose cabbage because he was too ugly to walk on the road, wrote "Sandu Fu", but it has been passed down through the ages.
As a result, you may be liked for a while if you have good looks, but the high speech value will be passed down for several generations.
This value is not the value of the face, it is not the appearance of the face, but the value of the words. The so-called speech value is the level of your speech.
Talking, as simple as it sounds, is something that a three-year-old child can do. However, it is not easy to be high-valued. What does it mean to be high?
Plato said, "The wise speak because they have something to say; Fools speak because they want to speak. ”
People who have a lot of value will speak in the right place. People who have no value for their words, no matter what the occasion, always say something out of place.
At the funeral, it is not appropriate to tell jokes to make everyone laugh, on the contrary, you can't say too sad words to touch people's heads when the day is happy.
It is not appropriate for laymen to speak in jargon, which is tantamount to putting people in the embarrassing realm of playing the piano to the cow;
Therefore, whether you can say some things or not, not only depends on right and wrong, but also on yourself, whether your identity is appropriate, and resolutely do not say what you don't fit your identity.
For what should not be said, there is a wise saying in the Analects: "If you don't say what you do, you don't admonish it, and you don't blame the past." ”
Frankland Lentz also said in The Power of Speaking: "People will forget what you said, but they will never forget the feelings they felt".
Therefore, it is very important to speak with a sense of proportion. The proportions of what you speak are the size of your person.
Language is God's highest reward for mankind. Because of language, human beings have real thinking and real communication between people.
As the French writer Molière said, "Language is a tool given to man to express his thoughts".
It is a process of continuous learning, accumulation, and improvement from the birth of a person to the final proficiency in mastering and using language. The improvement of speech value is essentially the improvement of thoughts, and the improvement of thoughts will accumulate the power to change lives.
Heine once said in The State of France: "The power of words is great enough to wake up the dead from the grave, to bury the living alive, to turn the dwarf into a giant, and to crush the giant completely." ”
In a word, you can make friends who know you, but you can also attract enemies who hate you; In a word, it can make you famous, but it can also make you ruined.
Many times, "The life in your mouth is your life." To speak well is to change your fate. ”
In daily life and work, we often have many opportunities to speak, and when we speak, we often encounter minefields.
Like what:
In a small conference room in front of the leader, I was so nervous that I blushed, my heart beat, and my hands trembled.
For those who want to express their opinions, say that the east and the west are different, and countless redundant words pop up: uh, ah, this, that, a lot of nonsense... It's hard to say it yourself, and it's hard for others to listen.
To persuade customers, leaders, and friends, they talked a long list to themselves, but the other party scratched their ears and cheeks, yawned and was unmoved.
So, after we have expressed it, we often let out such an exclamation: Oh, I just talked nonsense, if I was given another chance, I would definitely say it well.
But how can there be so many opportunities in life? Only by treating each time as the "last time" can we truly feel the importance and have a chance to succeed.
Mastering the skills of clever language is important for both presentations and negotiations.
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